Posted by: adamthedad | March 26, 2013

A Father’s view on the ‘Mommy Wars’

I’ve been thinking a lot the last few days about the on going battle of the ‘Mommy Wars’ and frankly, the more I do so, the more inane it seems. You wonderful, caring, loving mothers fight about breastfeeding versus formula feeding. You fight about Stay at home, versus work at home, versus work at work. You fight about organic foods versus non-organic. You fight about vaccinations, and on, and on. But if you just took a second, you’d realize, that you’re really all fighting for the same thing, your kids.

We all fight a battle, Mom’s and Dad’s alike, to raise our kids the best we can. It shouldn’t matter how we get there, if kids are being raised with love and care.

For you breastfeeding advocates, I appreciate your passion, keep it up. For those of you who bottle feed, and use formula, you carry on with your bad selves; you are doing nothing but making sure your baby doesn’t go hungry.  For you stay at home Moms, your job is tough, one of the hardest there is. If you feel guilty about not contributing financially to your family, stop it. You are contributing in ways that are intangibly important and your family loves you for it. If you don’t feel guilty about it, great, you continue loving on your family, they love you for it.  For you Mom’s that are working because your family needs you to, keep your chin up. You are sacrificing for your family, and they love you for it. You Mom’s who are working because you feel like you have talents that extend beyond the walls of your house? I say good on you, carry on, keep it up, your family loves you for it.

For the rest of it, please, for the love of God, accept that there is more than one way to raise a child. Every child is different, every parent is different. The world thrives on that diversity, but it can also be beat up by it. Look deeper, beyond the labels that society puts on the different sides of the ‘war’ and ask yourself, is the child loved? Are they happy? Are they cared for? If the answer is yes, that’s what matters.



  1. Adam, so true and beautifully said! Wish every mother could read this.

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